Obtaining a Ph.D. in the Psychology of ME!

Someone recently asked me, “What is the biggest life, career, health, or business challenge you have had to face and how did you overcome it?”

For me, it was my attempted suicide at 18 years old. At that time in my life, I was consumed with anger towards the women who I felt abandoned me. I was in a rage to make anyone who hurt me, feel the pain of me being gone.

How did I overcome it?

First, I was just lucky that the suicide attempt failed. Nothing but the grace of God kept me alive that day. I was filled with instant regret the moment I heard the gun click but didn’t fire. I realized at that moment that I didn’t want to die – I just didn’t know how to live with the pain I was feeling.

Second, I changed my self-image and what I believe about myself. I analyzed every moment of my life to understand why I made the decisions I’ve made up until that point. I started combing through my internal library of all the memories, stories and events from my past, and then determined what beliefs I created as a result of those memories, stories and experiences. Really, I was just trying to get a grasp on the kinds of thoughts I had, emotions I felt, and actions I took, to better understand the results I experienced up until that point at 18 years old.

Basically, I was getting a PhD in the Psychology of ME!

Once I had the knowledge and understanding of why I did the things I did in my past, I scoured the internet, online courses, programs, coaching, YouTube, anything to teach myself the tools and applications to apply to myself and change the limited thinking and being that I was up until that point.

This is how I changed my self-image. I challenged everything I had been told or believed from my childhood. I traced where the limiting beliefs came from and tried to find any alternative perspectives from the events in my past in order to change what I believed about myself. I was not stuck on trying to change what happened to me (because that’s impossible, it’s in the past!). I did not wish for the people around me to be different.

It was ME versus ME.

Once I got rid of all the old programming, I consciously recreated myself into who I wanted to BE. I decided how I wanted to see myself, how I wanted to be remembered in the world, what impact I was going to leave on this Earth, what qualities I want to embody, and the new values and beliefs I would adopt.

I am so grateful and blessed that my suicide attempt failed 20 years ago, because now I have the skills and the platform to get in front of the problem and help others before they get to that point where all hope is lost. If there is someone in your life who is going through challenging times, giving up on themselves, or is in a really dark place - please reach out ❤️

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Becoming Child-Like to Remember Your True Self

Have you ever heard the phrase, “become child-like again”?

What does that even mean?

I’m not telling you to be child-ish, I'm talking about becoming child-like!

Often when I coach, I quote my big brother Jesus when he said, “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.”

It is not a place he’s discussing but a way of BEING. The Kingdom exists in you, not outside of you. So what did he mean when he said to become like little toddler children?

The original design.

Let's look at some of the characteristics of children. They are:

• Happy

• Curious

• Playful

• Fearless

• Helpful

• Imaginative

• Big dreamers

• Eager to learn

• Forgiving

• Accepting

• Unconditionally loving

• See the best in everyone

• Resilient

• Optimistic

• Decisive

• Creative

• Energetic

• Friendly

• Caring

• Giving

• Joyful

• Worthy

• Non-judgmental

• Pure in thinking

• All possibility

• Determined

• Intuitive

Just to name a few.

What would life be like for you if this is who you returned back to BEING?

And I mean return because, like every other toddler, this is who you are at your core too. You just have a harder time recognizing it in yourself because your environment made you believe that living this way is unsafe, can leave you vulnerable to get hurt, taken advantage of, etc.

However, now you live feeling inauthentic because you are not your true self. You have become callous and your heart has grown hard in order to protect yourself. You are out of integrity with who God created you to be. The child is the original design and your true nature.

See, you were born already prepared and with everything you need to create a magical life, just like an apple seed has everything it needs to become an apple tree already inside of it.

You just have to remember your true self (become like a child again) so that you may RE-MEMBER back into the Kingdom within you. From that place not only will you see how beautiful life is, but also how limitless YOU truly are.

If you are having difficulties remembering who you truly are and getting back to that version of yourself, I would encourage you to reach out and schedule a call.

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Coach Steve Bacon

Who is Steeeeeve Bacon?

For those that are new here let me introduce myself. My name is Steve Bacon, your Master Life coach. The Steve Bacon you see today comes from 18 years education and experience and a deep invested into my own personal development and healing. Let me take you through my journey.

I experienced more traumatic events in the first 20 years of life than most could ever imagine. I was born to a single mother in the early 80’s and raised in Northern California between Hayward and Oakland.

In the early 80’s at the start of the crack epidemic, my mother became an addict. I was just 6 months old. Growing up in and out of crack houses, I was left in some pretty horrific conditions and with even worse people. Unfortunately, I was molested as a young child by one of those people.

I did not grow up knowing who my father was. So imagine my surprise when one day a man showed up at my grandmother's house claiming to be my father and just took me away to live in Georgia. Without warning, discussion or anything else for the matter. This sadly was not a positive move, and led to abuse at the hands of my father and an eventual move back to California to my grandmother’s.

By the time I graduated high school I had attended 14 different schools. Most people, including yourself, remember the first days of school. They are nerve wrecking! Are you wearing the right outfit, do you smell funny, where are you going, and who are you going to hangout with. Just a few of the things running through your head! Now imagine doing that EVERY year, and sometimes more than once, in a school year at a new school. Where you had to be the new kid, make new friends, find the bathroom, figure out who sat where during lunch. All the things that still make our palms sweat! To say it was a lot would be an understatement.

But I’m a problem solver! So as soon as I graduated high school I fled to the military.

After joining the military, I lost the only person I ever really felt loved and cared for me, my grandmother. That loss was just too much to deal with and lost all control. I was blinded by rage and pain. And how does someone find comfort when they are hurt? ALCOHOL! This lifestyle led to two failed marriages, an attempted suicide, and a felony. All by the ripe old age of 20.

Those years and events, while very painful, were necessary to put me on the path to becoming the man I am today. I owe all of this to my mentor Hank. Hank changed my life for the better and in ways I would not come to appreciate until much later.

Hank introduced me to the world of personal development and started me on my journey. I dove head first into my own personal development and tried to understand how my mind worked. I wanted to see if I could actually heal from all of the darkness I had experienced. I knew there had to be more to life than just coping.

Through this personal learning journey, I found my calling as a life coach. I felt a deep passionate calling for making a difference in other peoples’ lives and in my larger community. To help understand this calling, I became a student of the world learning and digesting teachings from some of the greatest teachers and coaches the world had to offer. It took a long time for me to see, but all of the trauma and life experiences I had turned into a gift.

Fast forwarding over the last 13 years where I have had the distinct privilege of working with world class clients while continuing to develop myself and further my understanding of how the world works. I have been able to become a world renown Master Life Coach and Teacher with the innate ability to connect with people at a soul level.

Because of my own personal journey from my bottom I am able to take clients to their most vulnerable place and work our way up from there. A saying that is echoed throughout our office is “Healed people heal people.” And I take that as not only a personal challenge but a responsibility. I have been able to heal from my own past traumas and it is now my RESPONSIBILITY to help others heal and become their best selves.

Now that you know about my journey are you ready to start your own? Work with me to uncover what’s stopping you from becoming the most successful you!

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